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barrenwomb
 August 20th, 2005 1:14 AMReport

Hey all,
I am new to this site. My husband suggested it because I am having such a hard time with infertity. I read through some of the e-mails and was amazed at the support system. Finally, someone who knows how I feel. Today at work one of my corwkers informed me that she is pregnant. Yesterday she was not feeling ill at all and magically today she was really queasy as soon as she found out she was prego. She and I had m/c about 4 months apart. She tried for 4 months after hers and got prego while I am 9 months out with out anything. Almost everyone I know is prego or just had a baby. In fact one of my best friends and I were four days apart on our due dates and I m/c'ed 10 1/2 weeks in. So I had to see every stage of my pregnancy through her. I even had to go to her shower the weekend of mother's day and find out about another friends pregnancy. To make matters worse this friend that was prego at the same time delivered her baby on what was going to be my due date. I thought I was going to die from the pain. I even went to the hospitalto see her and the baby. Some days I feel like my heart is going to fall out of my chest. My husband and I are in the beginning stages of the adoption process and hope we get one soon. Sorry I rambled on so long I am just so happy to find some support. Good luck to all and I hope babies are coming our way.

cassandra
 August 20th, 2005 8:39 AMReport

Barrenwomb, I'm so sorry to hear of your loss. M/C is extremely difficult. To have to see your friends go on with their own pg has got to be heartbreaking. I just want to welcome you to this site. The women here are very friendly, open and honest. You are not alone in this journey.
Having friends pg, going to showers ect. is something I think we all have experienced in one way or another. Would you feel comfortable giving a brief history? You can add it to your signature. There are so many factors to infertility and treatments. It can be overwhelming. Talking about it is very beneficial though. Anyways, welcome to the site and please come and vent anytime. cassandra

Fortyfour
 August 21st, 2005 9:32 PMReport

I am sorry for your pain and frustration. I worked with a lady who's due date was 2 days before mine and I m/c at 10 weeks. It was really hard to see her and know that that is what i would have looked like had I not lost my baby. You were very strong to go the hospital. I do not know if I could have done that.

Take care and baby dust to you.


barrenwomb
 August 21st, 2005 10:05 PMReport

Thanks so much for your responses. I am having a really hard day today. I have to go to work tomorrow with that friend who is prego and I am not sure if I can face it. I just feel like it is never going to happen to me. There is no reason why my husband and I shouldn't be able to conceive, we just haven't been able to. It is going to be so hard to act excited for her and to listen to her stories of morning sickness. Also, I have a family reunion coming up on my husband's side and I have to face his prego sister. They weren't even trying when they got pregnant. Oh well, I always survive some how and I'll have to survive this. It is not like I wish infertility on anyone, I just want to be in their happy little prego circle. Thanks guys.

Fortyfour
 August 23rd, 2005 1:59 PMReport

Barrenwomb - Your feelings are never wrong. You have a right to be angry, depressed and frustrated. I also gave up being happy for others. It was too hard to pretend. When people would come up to me and go on and on about their pregnancy I would look disinterested and they would stop and I would go talk to someone else. I hope your little bundle comes to you.



Heidi31
 August 24th, 2005 3:36 PMReport

Barronwomb

It's not easy facing the realities of a m/c. I am a professional after 9m/cs and 2 ectopics in 5 years i feel like i live in post traumatic stress world. There is so much hope to hold onto though. Even though sometimes it seems like hope is our enemy because it always seems to let us down, Keep your chin up your shoulders back brush that dirt off and keep trying. ;)

barrenwomb
 August 24th, 2005 10:08 PMReport

heidi,
I am so sorry for what you have had to endure over the past five years. It's so amazing what we can survive. Everyone around me is pregnant or just had a baby and it is so hard to get together with them and have that be the topic of conversation. I was actually hanging out with three friends and that is what monopolized the conversation the whole night. I felt horrible. But how do you escape it? You can't. You just have to be strong enough to deal with it. Thank you so much for your reply and good luck to you. Infertility is a horrible thing to have to face.

Heidi31
 August 25th, 2005 8:31 AMReport

Thanks for your support It's nice to know I don't have to go insane about this alone ;).



nikki millward
 September 14th, 2005 6:43 PMReport

Hello everyone, I am new to this site but not new to infertility. My DH and I have been TTC for over 3 years.
We have done 4 IUIs with clomid and 3 IVFs/ICSI-all neg.
Let me tell you there is nothing more difficult than what we are going through! I have 2 sister-in-laws who have both become pregnant twice in the time I have been TTC. Not to mention 3 cousins and 2 co-worker,one who did IVF and it worked the first time. As I write it I can't believe I'm still going! I've cried so many tears and have felt so depressed, but I still have hope that my time will come! I am just starting my 4th cycle but we are doing ZIFT/ICSI this time and I feel like this could be the one! I don't think I could bear another negative. I have started thinking very positive and trying very hard not to be jealous but to be happy for all the pregnant women around me. I also use to avoid babies and pregnant women but now I try to kiss and love my nieces and nephews as much as possible. Maybe this positive attitude will be my saving grace this time!! I also pray a lot-for myself as well as those who are pregnant around me. Thanks for reading-Let's continue to pray for each other! God be with you all on this journey of faith. nikki :) :)

Fortyfour
 September 14th, 2005 7:34 PMReport

Good luck with your ivf. When are you doing It?