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Hola China,
wow listening to your story reminds me of my own. I had my tubes done at 21 and had them reversed at 26. Like you i was in an abusive relationship and thought I would be with this person forever. I have been with my DH for 13 years and tried two IVF cycles and one FET cycle. 1 IVF cycle failed and the other one was a chemical pregnancy with a beta count of 15.. The FET cycle also to my surprise ended up to be a chemical pregnancy with a beta count of 88. The ladies in this site are wonderful expecially when you need to vent. As i have when I have become frustrated. Im planning on doing another FET cycle next month and hope it takes this time. I have put on close to 10lbs and struggling to take it off by the time i do another cycle. GOOD LUCK and BABY DUST TO YOU!

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It felt really good getting out of that situation but It still haunts me. Every time I had a failed cycle I would think "what if...". I only tied my tubes because I never wanted to become pregnant with him and make a bad situation worse. I promised my self to stop doing that. I was already planning a tubal revfersal when I found out I was actually pregnant! I could have bet BIG money I wasn't with all the spotting.
Yesterday was really scary also because I had one large spotting episode. Though Brown tinged, I was scared. I went to my fertility doctor (Bless His Hands) and he said all looked good. Brown spotting may occur again but I still get nervous thinking about it. I'm 5 weeks 2 days...Can't wait until 12 weeks.

Good luck and tons of Baby Dust to you!!!!

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Congrats on the pg China. They say brown spotting is ok. Just not frank red blood. Take care and may that belly keep on growing.

Good luck Latina. Do you have an approximate date yet?

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Congratulations, China. Stay positive and take it easy. Hopefully, you will get to 12 weeks in a breeze and everything will turn out fine. Enjoy, Enjoy, Enjoy.

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Hi Fourtyfour,
Im not sure if I am going to do another cycle. I had planned on doing a FET cycle this month, because I have frozen embys left BUT my relationship is falling apart from all stress. Im hoping we will be able to weather the storm but its not looking that way. :(
It's been a tough month. I started to bleed after my last FET cycle and thought it was a no go. Then my RN calls and tells me me beta was 88. I had to basically wait the whole weekend with "what if". It was brutal. I had to go in 3 more times before my beta registered to 0. I was extremely disappointed and sad with this cycle but the worst part was that I felt like I was alone and not in a good place. Im not sure what I plan on doing with my frozen embies..I might just say the hell with him and do the last FET on my own and hope for the best..But then me realistic side kicks in and I have to ask myself"ARE YA CRAZY" its safe to say I HAVE A DILEMA!!What do you think? ::)

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Latina, I am so sorry about the chemical pregnacy, With my first pg my bets was 50, then 78 and then by the 4th bets it started to double. He told on the second beta that the baby would not probably make it so we were freaky until the us. Then a heartbeat only to lose the baby at 10 wks. I dont want to go throught that beta blood draw game again thank you. I shook for days waiting for the results and then having to have another test. I am soooo sorry that you had to go through this.

My hubby and I had a really rough patch before this ivf and I was also not sure whether i should be going through with it. I realize now it was because of the stress of it and glad we did it and kept on with the relationship. I realize now how much my hormones made me insure and anxious. I do not know what is exactly going on for you both but if you guys are usually strong together and it just a situational bad time then hang in there. I was going to move out at one point before my ivf because I thought he was not "involved" enough. But guys pull away during stress and we try to get closer. It is so hard on both partners. Take some time and heal and let your emotions and hormones settle and then take another look at it all. Take care my friend. My thoughts are with you.

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Latina, Men stress during these times just as much as we do but unlike us they don't like to talk about it. They ignore it, complain ...but don't really show when they are disappointed or scared for that matter.
Why don't you two just go away for a weekend...No baby talk, Just the two of you. When the weekend is almost over sit down and have a heart to heart and decide together.
I'll be praying for u. Just remember, U have to be happy first.

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Thank you for your words of wisdom. We are planning a nice weekend away without the whole baby thing. Of course my period just came and Im eager to call the doctor to do my last FET cycle.Im so scared to hold off because I feel like my biological clock is ticking ticking. Not to mention that everytime I walk out my door people are always asking "when are you going to give that man a baby?" I just want to scream at the top of my lungs"what do you think ive ben trying to do for the last 5 years!"to top thhings of noone knows that im even doing IVF. Its hard but im sure we will work it out. I just dont want this whole infertility thing to take away another part of me.

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Hi ladies,

I'm suppose to go on Thur. this week for my surgery and I am so nervous and scared. I'm 29 and have an 8 yr old girl and a 4 yr old boy. My husband says he wouldn't mind if we had another one, but he says that maybe it's best if I do go a get it done, we're both still kinda of like yes and no.... I keep talking my self out of having another by reminding myself how bad my 2 pregnancy were, passing out and feeling sick all day long. I also, don't want to go through the changing of the diapers and the food and child care and so on, but just to think that I can no longer have one if I do decide on one is driving me crazy I feel like I'm losing something by doing this. Can some please help ease my mind.....
Thanks :-[

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Hi ladies,

I'm suppose to go on Thur. this week for my surgery and I am so nervous and scared. I'm 29 and have an 8 yr old girl and a 4 yr old boy. My husband says he wouldn't mind if we had another one, but he says that maybe it's best if I do go a get it done, we're both still kinda of like yes and no.... I keep talking my self out of having another by reminding myself how bad my 2 pregnancy were, passing out and feeling sick all day long. I also, don't want to go through the changing of the diapers and the food and child care and so on, but just to think that I can no longer have one if I do decide on one is driving me crazy I feel like I'm losing something by doing this. Can some please help ease my mind.....
Thanks :-[

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Hi Ladies,
I think I have found the right place to seek advice. I am so not alone as I read that alot of you have gone through the same mess I have. I was in a bad marriage and had my tubes tied after my 2nd son, thinking I would never have the courage to leave him. Well 6 years and a wonderful new husband later, we are discussing baby plans! My boys are 10 & 8 y.o. and I thought I was done, but this man so deserves a biological child. He is an amazing Dad to my sons and we are all lucky to have him! He was actually ok with not having one until recently. We have had ALOT of births in the family recently and I can see the look in his eyes. He is ready.
I called my OB today and I am just devastated. The procedure will cost $8,000, of which we don't exactly have lying around. I am hoping there are other ways around a reversal. If anyone has any information or advice for us, please write soon! I don't even know where to begin.
Thanks so much!

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Hi,
Im new to this so bare with me! I'm 30 I have four kids and I just got remarried and I had my tubes tided 3 years ago. My question is, can you get pregant without have the reversal? I lactaed with my last child for a about well 4 yrs until I had my tubal> well I just noticed this morning that after all this time I am lactating again.
I have been feeling sick and I'm just not sure is it really possible?

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Hi,
Im new to this so bare with me! I'm 30 I have four kids and I just got remarried and I had my tubes tided 3 years ago. My question is, can you get pregant without have the reversal? I lactaed with my last child for a about well 4 yrs until I had my tubal> well I just noticed this morning that after all this time I am lactating again.
I have been feeling sick and I'm just not sure is it really possible?

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my doctor said that your tubes can come untied anywhere between three to seven years and i was woundering if this was true because i want to have another child

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tranee, I have heard that as well, I know someone whos tubes came untied and she conceived but she also got an abortion :-\, but she already has five children! I heard if they don't tie them and burn them they can come untied in 3 to 7 years also....Good Luck....China

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Hello everyone well I guess I'm not alone and everyone have similiar situations. well I also found mr. wonderful and we've been together for seven years .and after a divorce and getting my tubes tied . see the problem with me is that I didn't go to the interview I just handed my papers after delivery I didn't want to have another baby in an abusive relationship.and now we would love to become parents and I can't do this .now i feel like a did something wrong we i cant give him something as precious as a child

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hi everyone, i had my tubes cut and burn 8 yrs ago. And now i have lot of cramps like if i have my period but nothing I'm 5 days late. I haven't gone to the the Doctor yet because I'm scare. I'm sick, dizzy, back hurts the works. Can you come out pregnant after having a tubal ligation done? Can anyone give advice please.....

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Hello, everyone I am 28 yrs old and my tubes are tyed and I want to get them untyed because I missed out on my baby life because I moved from Philadelphia to North Carolina not knowing that this is a state that rob and rap people of there right. I had to battle with NC DSS because of and out of control social worker and missed all my baby moments because my older son had a mark on his neck and now my baby is a year old I want to get out of this races town and go back to Philly, but I want to know if any one knows if it is possible to get it done and have a baby. PLEASE SEND ME SOME INFO....

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HI! GOD BLESS YOU ALL. I WOULD LIKE TO SAY I ,TO HAD A TUBAL LIGATION DONE AFTER MY FOURTH CHILD. I'M MARRIED TO MY SOUL MATE , HAD 2 BOYS AND 2 GIRLS TOGETHER AND HAVE BEEN MARRIED 9 YEARS NOW. IM 28 , MY HUSAND 29. WE THOUGHT OUR FAMILY WAS COMPLETE UNTILL I GOT REALLY DIPRESSED, DEEP INSIDE I FELT SAD AND ANGRY THAT I CAN NOT HAVE ANY MOR CHILDREN. I HAVE BEEN STRUGGLING W\ THIS DIPRESSION FOR A GOOD 4 YEARS AND COUNTING . FINALLY I JUST HAD TO GIVE IT TO MY LORD , I CAN NOT CARRY IT ON MY SHOULDERS ANYMORE. I ASKED GOD TO FORGIVE ME FOR TAKING THE CONTROL OUT OF HIS HANDS AND TAKING IT IN TO MY OWN HANDS IN DETERMININIG HOW MANY KIDS I WOULD HAVE. I WAS WRONG . THE LORD KNOWS HOW MANY CHILDREN HE WANTS ME TO HAVE. I GAVE BACK THE CONTROL TO HIM. FOR MY HUSBAND AND MYSELF WE SO DESIRE ANOTHER BABY. I KNOW GOD GIVES US THE DESIRES OF OUR HEARTS. IM BELEIVING IN A MIRACLE BECAUSE I KNOW AND BELIEVE THAT MY GOD IS A GOD FULL OF MIRACLES..... SO I SPEAK TO THAT MOUNTAIN FOR ALL YOU WOMEN WHO ARE ALSO DESIRING A BABY I SPEAK MIRACLES AND BLESSINGS IN YOUR LIFE.. GOD SAYS ASK AND YOU SHALL RECEIVE .NOTHING NO, NOTHING IS TO IMPOSSIBLE FOR GOD . WHAT IS IMPOSSSIBLE TO MEN IS POSSIBLE TO GOD. SO TO THOSE WHO ASK ''COULD I BE / OR GET PREGNANT AFTER A TUBAL''? AS FAR AS GOD'S CONCERN ABSOLUTELY!!!!!!!!!!!!!! THERE IS HOPE LADIES. ITS ONLY A PRAYER AWAY. THE LORD IS A FORGIVING AND MERCIFUL GOD ..... THANK GOD HE IS...... SO I WILL CONTINUE TO BELIEVE IN THE MIRACLE GOD HAS ALREADY ORDAINED FOR ME.........GOD BLESS

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AMEN Jacqueline!!!!!!! You are absolutely right!! Wow, what faith you have :) That is awesome!!
ANYTHING is possible with God, ANYTHING.....so ladies keep believing, and watch what God does ;).

On another note, I heard about this tubal reversal doctor in Rio Bravo, Mexico that only charges about $2200 for his tubal reversal surgeries. He has been performing that particular surgery for awhile now, and on his website he has lots of testimonials fom his patients. His name is Dr. Roberto Perez, and Dr. Levi. You guys should check him out. He seems very reputable.

Baby Dust To You All,
Monica

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I'M 26 YEARS OLD AND HUSBAND AND I HAN A BABY GIRL SHE HAD A INLARGE HEART THE DOCTORS FIND SOMEONE TO FIX IT BUT GOD WANTED HE SOONER THAN WE THOUGT. I RECEIVED A TUBUL BECAUSE I THOUGT IT WAS MY FAULT. SO I DIDN'T WANT HIM OR ME TO HURT AGAIN BUT WHAT I DID WAS HURT US REALLY HARD. NOW I DON'T HAVE THE MONEY FOR A REVERSAL NEED SOME EXTRA LOVE.

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Mrs. Heartbroken: I just sent a prayer up to Heaven on your behalf, and I know that God will restore back to you DOUBLE what was taken away from you & your husband. In the meantime, please check out that Doctor in Mexico that I mentioned in my post above. He is ALOT cheaper than the American tubal reversal doctors.
Also, if you go to www.blessedarrows.com, they may be able to help you as well.

Baby Dust To You & PLEASE keep the Faith!!!!!
Monica :)

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HELLO LADIES
I GOT MY TUBES TIDE CAUSE MY SON WAS BORN WITH A HEART PROBELM AND HE PASS AWAY AT 3 MONTHS AND EVER SINCE THEN I HAVE BEEN ANGRY, MAD, SAD AND HURT I JUST COULD NOT UNDERSTAND WHY GOD TOOK MY BABY WHEN I HAD 2 KIDS AND I AM A GOOD MOTHER UNTILL I MET SOMEONE WHO TOLD ME THAT WHAT I HAD WAS A ANGEL AND HE NEEDED TO BE IN HEAVEN WITH GOD TO WATCH OVER ME AND I FELT BETTER KNOWING THAT GOD CHOOSE ME TO HAVE HIS ANGEL WELL I REGRET GETTING MY TUBES TIDE AND I WANT ANOTHER BABY I DONT HAVE THE MONEY TO GET A REVERSAL WEATHER HERE IN TH UNITED STATES OR MEXICO I WISH FOR A BLESSING I WISH FOR A BABY I WISH I STILL HAD MY BABY I AM HURT IF ANYONE COULD HELP PLEASE CAUSE I WOULD NOT HAVE HAD IT DONE IF I KNOW GOD WAS GOING TO TAKE HIS ANGEL PLEASE HELP

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Erica: Go to www.blessedarrows.com. They have a program where they will actually pay for your reversal surgery through donations from others. I know that there is a waiting list, but eventually your name would be at the top. Please check it out........

Baby Dust To You!!! :)
Monica

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I am 28 years old I have a 12 year old and 6 year old girl and a 5 year old boy. My mother made me get my tubes tied at the age of 23. Now that i have got out on my own and found the man of my life ,he wants a child of his own and i can,t give it to him. I WANT another child but. we can't afford the cost. If anyone is out there that can help me PLEASE RESPOND!!!!!!!! I really want to surprise him with his first child.

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[quote]Hi Monica, do you know if that is the correct web site address? I just tried to log on and it can't be found.... I am in desperate need of help!
Thank you, Michelle

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Erica: Go to www.blessedarrows.com. They have a program where they will actually pay for your reversal surgery through donations from others. I know that there is a waiting list, but eventually your name would be at the top. Please check it out........

Baby Dust To You!!! :)
Monica
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Baby Dust Needed: I'm sorry.....The correct web address is www.blessedarrows.org. It is not "com", it is "org". Try that. Also log unto www.riobravoreversal.com for the Doctor that I mentioned in my earlier posts. I hope that this information helps.

Much Baby Dust To You!
Monica

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I have two beautiful children with a dreadful ex. We were together for 7 long and hard years. Finally divorced and much happier, I live for myself and my two children. I realized I lost myself and was someone else for my ex. Almost a year later, I am with a wonderful man who I wish was the father of my children. My daughter has grown so attached, and as for my son, I feel someday he will. My boyfriend has two of his own, but has a dreadful ex also. We have talked about a child of our own, and at first I was like yeah, maybe. Now I feel it would be right, and the right time. My children use to ask me if they can have another brother or sister, and I think that maybe they should. My children help me remember to be me, and have taught me never lose sight of that again, at which I teach them to do the same.

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Hello,
I am a new one to life after tubaligation. I previously got my tubes tied about three days ago. Right now I have no regrets at all. I have a 13,8 and 3 year old. I have a wonderful husband of 10 years whom is very supportive of our three kids. I am now 32 years old and when I started having kids, I was in college and doing very well might I add. I feel like I put my life on hold long enough for the life of my kids. It is now almost time for me to start thinking about what I want out of life and the future I want for my kids. I chose tubaligation because I honestly can say that I am threw having kids and I am tired of all the birth control and hormone this and hormone that. I can enjoy sex with my husband and not have to worry about getting pregnant and putting my life on hold. Even if my husband and I were to seperate and I would find someone else, having another baby would be out of the question. Who knows you go through all the time and effort to have another baby for someone else wants and you might find yourself raising a baby alone. So I say to you out there, make sure that tubaligation is the right thing for you.

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I'm 36 and had my tubal about 9 years ago. I have two wonderful children I have finally met the man of my dreams and wish I could have a baby. But who knows maybe it will happen. We would both love it but if it doesn't we are happy with his and mine. I stumbled onto this site and I glad I did I just wanted to say to Monica I LOVE your faith thank you for touching my heart.

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