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Michelle, Jenny & Lisa -

Thanks so much for your support. Keeping intouch with you all has really helped.

All the best to Daniella & Lindsay - tomorrow is going to be a big day for all of us!!!!

BABY DUST TO ALL!

Meg

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Ladies -
Thanks for all the support! It really has been a lifesaver to have this forum.

daniella

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Best of luck ladies. I will be praying for you all as well. Plus keeping toes, fingers and paws crossed to for better luck. Babydust to you all!!!!!

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GOOD LUCK GUYS SENDING POSITIVE THOUGHTS YOUR WAY
LISA

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GOOD LUCK EVERYONE

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Hi All - thanks so much for your support but I got bad news today. I feel like my heart has been ripped out. I hope you all faired better than I did.

Meg

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I am so sorry call me if you need to talk
8474361216
xolisa

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Meg, I am so sorry.

I also got bad news-my beta did not double (as I had a horrible suspicion). It only went from 172 to 205. I would rather have received a negative from the beginning...

Lindsay

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Meg and Lindsay and Morgan -

I am so sorry to hear about your results today. It makes me very sad. My thoughts are with you.

I feel guilty and sad sharing my news. This whole process is so not fair!
Today i got a BFP
HCG - 552
Progesterone - 30

Daniella

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Daniella, Lindsay & Morgan -

I am so sorry for you all. The idea of women who are in the position to want and give a baby a wonderful life are going through this - I just dont understand why? I am sure it will happen for all of you. However, this was my last try - we did egg donar and did not have any to freeze. I think I am going to look into adoption. I hope that process is not as painful.

Keep in touch - I will check into the forum to talk to you all.

Meg

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Funny story -

I stopped by Jewel on my way home from work. I wanted to pick up a bib that I saw there for my hubby. It says "daddy's little star". I was only buying the one bib...although now I am regretting not buying ice cream! Anyways, the check out clerk said..."I hope this isn't for you". I asked why and he said "you are much to young to be having kids". I'm 28 and do look young but I thought if only you knew everything we've gone through for this pregnancy! It was a very strange interaction.

Daniella

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Meg and Lindsay - so sorry to hear the painful news. I will be praying for a positive end to your journey one way or another. Take to to heal and know that God has a plan for each and everyone of us.

Daniella - that is a BFP!!!!! Sounds to me that you may have double the news. That is a very high starting HCG. My bet is at least twins!!!!! Congratulations.

Talk to you all later.

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lindsay,meg,and morgan

i am so sorry I want you to know i really believe there is reason for everything-
if any one needs to talk to me don't hesitate to call 8474361216
my heart is with all of you
lisa

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I am soooo sorry ladies...

Meg: Would you look into International Adoption? If you do I have a few friends that went through Christian World Adoptions and they said the process was painless and uplifting.... I don;t know what state you live in by I know that adopting from California is tough but other states are easier. I wish you the best of luck. Start ordering your adoption pamphlets on line now from agencies, it will help your spirits reading adoption stories and it will get you back on your feet again. When my hubby and a=I gave up on fertility it helped
me during our fertility break to continue my adoption research.

Keep us posted please....

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Daniella:
Congrats! HIGH NUMBERS, very strong!

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Ladies, which day 3 or 5 blasocyst did you use that resulted in BFP?

Thx,
Mrgn

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Daniella -

Congrats i am so happy for you - you should not feel guilty. Keep us posted and take care of yourself.

Enjoy this joyous time! Meg

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Daniella

That is great news!! Keep us up to date on how you are doing!

Lindsay

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Hi Daniella, Lindsay, & Lisa

I would love some advice from you all. As you know I did have a BFN back in October. I met with my doctor to discuss what happened and he said that there was no medical reason why it did not work. (I did egg donor and did not have any eggs to freeze)

I thought that I was going into the meeting and was going to be told that he cant do anything for me anymore and I should start the adoption process. Well that was not the case. He told me that if I wanted I can do the procees again. It is going to cost dearly.

He also said that I should start the adoption process as well as a safety net.

Any thoughts??? Your input would be greatly appriciated.

Thanks, Meg

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Meg - I know you did not pose this question to me but I will say Go for it!!!...I did not think I would ever do a second IVF because of the cost and I thank God everyday that the DH said let's go for it or I would not be pregnant right now with a healthy little boy...I also would recommend (if you did not have it the other time) a 5 day blast transfer...I have looked and most places have higher success rates with the 5 day blasts...I will be praying for you and wish you best of luck in whichever journey you choose.

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By the way...I did a fresh cycle each time!!!!..I believe it betters the chances...That is only my opinion.

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Jenny, when u say fresh cycle what does that mean?

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[quote author=Meggemd link=board=15;threadid=4865;start=15#43085 date=1195008512]
Hi Daniella, Lindsay, & Lisa

I would love some advice from you all. As you know I did have a BFN back in October. I met with my doctor to discuss what happened and he said that there was no medical reason why it did not work. (I did egg donor and did not have any eggs to freeze)

I thought that I was going into the meeting and was going to be told that he cant do anything for me anymore and I should start the adoption process. Well that was not the case. He told me that if I wanted I can do the procees again. It is going to cost dearly.

He also said that I should start the adoption process as well as a safety net.

Any thoughts??? Your input would be greatly appriciated.

Thanks, Meg
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Meg,
I am new to interacting with the boards, but not to reading them. I have been reading them for the past three years for inspiration. My husband and I have been TTTC for 6yrs. I have been on meds for three of those six.

My first fertility Dr. put me through the general schedule if three IUIs and then an IVF and then an FET. Then we were out of $!!

He wanted to keep going with treatments and said he didn't know why it was not working. I had a friend who was preg. and she went to a different Dr. in our town and said that he was considered "Better" than my Dr.

I went to meet with the new Dr. when we had saved enough for another IVF. He immediately scheduled an MRI to see what may be causing the infert. I knew I had Endometiosis, but he found Adenomyosis as well. He said without treatment, I was not likely to get pregnant. I went on huge amounts of Lupron for 6 months and then had another MRI. The medicine worked!! I am now waiting for my test after IVF. It it tomorrow, Thursday and I am nervous, but at least I know why things were not working before.

My first Dr. never checked on anything just started me on meds. and stole my $$. The second Dr. was really interested in diagnosis and then treatment.

I am not sure of your circumstances, but my suggestions to anyone would to be, to find a Dr. that will do all the tests and rule everything out before starting again or for the first time.

Thanks for all of your posts. They have helped me and my husband more than you know!

I will be praying for you!
Kathy

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hie meg
sorry i know how it feels failing such hard work and expectations but if we believe in god then we should believe what happens is for the best, better luck next time we all r together and will fight this battle together

thumbs up

keep us updated aboat ur next step GOOD LUCK

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Jenny, Kathy & Lucky

Thanks so much for your advice and well wishes! You have definately given me great advice and alot to think about. I will keep you posted.

Meg

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Hey meg;

I say go for it. youll never regret it. and I think it is possible for everyone.- especially you.:)
lisa

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Lisa -

I most likely will go for it but it is so nerve racking!!! I do not want to always wonder - what if i did it again!

On the flip side the dissapointment is unbearable. But I lived through it this time and I have alot of support from my DH and my family and friends so that helps.

Thanks,
Meg

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Hi Meg

I also had a failed IVF cycle in March. We had planned to do an IUI with Bravelle, but I overresponded and was told I had to switch to IVF or cancel my cycle. Because we have to pay for meds and all procedures, we decided to switch although it was never our intention. As you described, everyone assumed I would get pregnant bc everything looked good. We even transferred 3 day 3 embryos. I received a negative result and was extremely upset.

We then focused on international adoption for a few months until I got distracted with acupuncture. I decided to give it 6 months. In the past, I had problems with my progesterone/estrogen levels. I would ovulate, but my levels always seemed to be off. After 3 months, I saw improvement and was very happy. My levels had normalized, and I felt better. The problem is that my husband has an extremely low sperm count. So we still had no real chance of getting pregnant.

Luckily at that time, one of the girls at my clinic mentioned there was a free IVF study if I was interested in applying. It was scary not knowing what drugs I was receiving, but it was actually a pleasant experience since they were testing a one time injection rather than the daily injections. And that is how I ended up pregnant, plus I have 7 embryos in storage.

Would I have done it without hearing about this study? I don't know. Probably. If there are no immense obstacles, I would give it another try. I also highly recommend the acupuncture. I had treatments all the way through my IVF and felt it made a real difference in my situation.

Good luck-I think it is worth considering another try. This is coming from someone who still has the money we borrowed for adoption sitting in the bank!

Hang in there. I still cringe when I think back to March...
Lindsay

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Hi Lindsay -

Your story is inspriational! And thanks for sharing it with me - it gives me hope. Unfortunately the pain of the BFN is still so fresh (less than a month).

I am looking into acupuncture and I have heard of an herbal chinese guy who has some great success in NYC getting women pg naturally with teas and herbs. It is an inexpencive process so I figured to give it a try until we decided what we are going to do and possibably pick a new donor. It cant hurt.

I am adopted myself so I am not opposed to the idea - but I would love to be pg myself if possible. It is just the cost of another donor cycle on top the the loan I already took and the $$$ needed for adoption is weighing heavly on my mind. Am I going to have any money left if and when I do have a baby??

I also have another obsticle - my DH is 6 years older than me and adoption agencies do not like to give babys to people 45 and over. So time is of the essence.

This really help to discuss this with someone who understands. My friends and family try to help but they do not know the pain that we are going through.

Thanks so much, Meg

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Hey ladies we had our followup ultrasound today...Gabriel was very cooperative and he is still a boy and has gotten even bigger...My brother's fiancee went with us to make sure it was still a boy...She would not believe it was a boy until the technician told her and showed her his part...Of course daddy just glows when she shows it...Trust me you all will see once you have the u/s that determines the sex....Also my triple screen bloodtest came back and all is normal...So everything is as it should be and I go back on the 29th for my regular anti climatic OB visit...Talk to you all later.

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