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Hi Cathy- I'd love to join you! I I am also doing a DE FET in Aug/Sept.
A little history- TTC 7yrs, never been pregnant, 6 ivfs, I fresh/1 frozen DE cycle. I seem to have a hormone issue that is affecting the egg quality so moved on to DE. I have a few DE embies left and I expect a positive outcome this summer!
I am sorry to hear of your difficult journey; It'll just make our BFPs that much more special.
Much babydust

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Hi Girls!
I am also doing a DE cycle hopefully this fall, and I would love to have a couple of buddies! I am waiting to be matched with an anonymous donor. I have been on the waiting list for 5 months. At 6 months I become a priority. I am really hoping it will happen by Sept/Oct.

Just a bit about me... I took a year off from treatments to decide if we wanted to try DE. We have attempted 3 IVFs and all were cancelled due to poor ovarian response. One of our tries produced NO eggs. I was devastated. Prior to that we attempted 8 IUIs with not one pregnancy.

In April, my new doctor found that I had MTHFR (a blood clotting disorder) It's just another piece to the puzzle and probably explains why I have never had a pregnancy. It can affect implantation and cause miscarriage. It can be controlled with high doses of B vitamins and Lovenox shots during pregnancy.

I have high hopes for a pregnancy for the fall and I will say lots of prayers for all of us. BABYDUST TO US ALL!

Take care girls!
Laura

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Welcome bmm and Laura!! Glad you could join me here!! Its certainly nice to have the company while we are in the wait together.

bmm - You must be excited that your DE FET is right around the corner!! ;D Sorry to hear that you've been through so much already, 7 years is a long time. (((hugs))) What is your hormonal issues that seems to be affecting egg quality? I couldn't agree with you more, our BFPs and pregnancies will be so much more special. I know that I won't complain a day in my life while preggo! Much babydust to you as well!!

Laura - I am really praying that you get matched up real soon! That would be great if we could cycle together. Have you ever considered going thru a Donor Agency? That's how we found our donor. I know its alot more expensive but we just couldn't wait for our clinic to try and match us up, they're list was so small to begin with. (((HUGS))) you have been through so much already as well. Its like one disappointment after another and feel we all have come to the decision of using DE for one reason or another. I couldn't possibly imagine going what you have been through already, you must be a very strong woman.

[quote]In April, my new doctor found that I had MTHFR (a blood clotting disorder) It's just another piece to the puzzle and probably explains why I have never had a pregnancy. [/quote]
I also have MTHFR as well as FACTOR V LIEDEN, both blood clotting disorders but apparently the most mild forms of them. Both my Protein C and Protein S levels were normal as well as my homocystiene levels. But I don't want to upset you by telling you that's probably not your reason for not getting pregnant yet. I've been pregnant 3 times since 2005 and my RE feels that my losses are all chromosome related. I haven't heard or read of it affecting implantation but I would assume that if blood flow to the uterus was not good, then implantation may be unsuccessful or would fail early on. Typically though, the blood clotting disorders will cause blood clots in the cord thus causing a m/c, usually in the 2nd or 3rd Trimesters though. Are you on baby aspirin? I take one daily and I'll need to go on Lovenox at 8 weeks thru out the entire pregnancy. I'm also on a high dose multivitamin called Folbic (which is Vitamin B6, B12 and Folic acid) on top of a prenatal, but now that I'm not using my own eggs, the prenatal probably isn't as important now but will be once preggo. If you have any questions about MTHFR, feel free to ask, I'd be more than happy to share what I know, but it isn't much.

We all need to stay + for each other here and that we are all going to be successful this year!!
BABYDUST! AND HAVE A HAPPY 4TH
Cathy

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Hi Cathy,
Sorry it took me so long to reply.. I have been on vacation.

It's odd about the MTHFR. There is so much I don't know about it... and there doesn't seem to be much you can find about it on the internet. I am aspirin allergic, so apspirin is out of the quesiton for me. I am just taking excess amounts of the B vitamins.

As far as waiting for my donor, I am happy to have the extra time. Going with DE has been a difficult decision for me. I wish it weren't... but it took me awhile to get used to the idea. I am just enjoying my summer and trying not to worry! It would be great if we could cycle together.

Keep me posted on what is going on with you.
Laura

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Hi Laura :D

Oh that's okay! Welcome back and that's great that you were on vacation! Go or do anything special? I [u]really[/u] need a vacation!

[quote]It's odd about the MTHFR. There is so much I don't know about it... and there doesn't seem to be much you can find about it on the internet.[/quote]
Yes, I noticed that too! I would have never expected something like that to come up + in my testing. My mom has had 7 children w/o any problems and my older sister has 2 children. Anything that I find on the internet is so much scientific mumbo-jumbo, its really hard to understand any of it. I happen to have a book at home called "Is your body Baby-Friendly?" and it mentioned MTHFR in there. Bummer that you are allergic to aspirin too. Did you Dr/RE mention you having to go on blood thinners once you get pg? I forgot to mention, I am on the special Rx vitamins too, called Folbic (a combo of B6, B12 & folic acid) - they are cheap thru my insurance, only $10 and last a month.

[quote]As far as waiting for my donor, I am happy to have the extra time. Going with DE has been a difficult decision for me.[/quote]
Oh, I totally understand. (((hugs))) Its certainly NOT an easy decision to come to terms with. Having this time I think is good. For me, I'm doing things to help ME feel good about myself, like losing alittle bit of weight, back on the treadmill, tighten up alittle, eat more healthy and just plain ol having some fun. I'm able to drink now, which is nice to be able to enjoy a glass of wine from time to time. I just wish it wasn't so dang-HOT here! I hate this time of the year here. 8) I stay indoors alot or I'm in the water at the beach.

I definitely want to cycle together, so let's stay in touch!

Finally, AF showed up on Sunday, so I was able to start my mock cycle on Monday. Mock cycle is Delestrogen shots twice a week then I go in on Monday for b/w then Thurs for an u/s, then the following week I start PIO shots for 10 days before an endometrial biopsy. This will determine how much estrogen I will require before the actual transfer. It makes me feel good knowing that my clinic is doing everything they can to make this cycle a success!!

Have a great day!!
Cathy :-*

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Hi -
Im sorry I havent written lately. The system will not allow me to logout and therefore, I cannot see any new posts, just my last post. I guess once I post this, I should be able to see all previous posts. I hope to resolve this soon. Cant wait to catch up.
Anyway, I hope all is well. Im taking it easy this month.
Much prosperity and joy!

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Hi bmm
Glad you are still with us!! That's terrible that you cannot logout and get to the news posts. dang-it! All is well on my end, thanks! Glad to hear you are taking it easy. I am trying to take it easy too these days but seem to have alot of appointments and now back on the treadmill.

Anyone doing acupuncture for your upcoming IVF cycle?

Cathy

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Hi girls!
Hi bmm, I hope things get setted with you soon! It's great to have you on board. The more the merrier I say.

Cathy, Thanks for the book recommendation. I will try to go to Borders and purchase a copy. A year and a half ago when I found out the only way I would become pg is to use donor egg, I threw out ALL of my books and leftover medications in a fit of rage! I was so angry. I need to get a hold of a few more good books and read up.

Yes, the choice to do DE is a major decision. It has been really difficult for me and I have cried a lot. I feel I am just getting to the point where I am really excited about it. I feel like I am almost there! I have started fixing up the nursery, nothing major... just carpeting and paint. (the room needs new carpeting anyway) It makes me feel better as if I am making a place for a little son or daughter. If this doesn't work... I guess I will just turn it into another guest room.

My concern is telling children about it later in life and having problems. Is it strange to worry about that?
I worry too much I know! I know there are many books and resources to help with the process.

I have so many friends that are pregnant and my younger brother and his wife have an 8 month old daughter and are talking about trying for a second child soon. I am happy for them, but I feel as if life is just passing me by!

Thanks for the advice on MTHFR, I seem to have a very mild form of it too. Maybe I will ask my doctor to prescribe that vitamin for me. It get so expensive otherwise.

It's great to have friends on this site! I have been posting here for a few years now... seems that most of the women I used to post with have gone on and had babies! (Good for them!) It feels lonely when you are one of the few ones left standing. I just hope we can all join the ranks soon! I will say many prayers for you and bmm.

Laura

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Hi ladies,
I can read all the posts now, yeah! I’m happy to be back.

Cathy and Laura, I’m sorry to hear about the MTHFR. I wish I could give you some input but I’ve never even heard of it until now. Is this a routine test or were you specifically tested?
I also had a very hard time with the idea of DE. I mentioned to a family member that I was planning on using DE and she graciously offered her eggs. So, I never went through the DE process. I am excited and optimistic for my next FET. We only a few left and I can’t help but feel a little nervous too. Until then, Dh and I are trying naturally...hey you never know. I was never given a solid diagnosis. In fact, the doctors thought that I would be pregnant in no time but here I am; and now it is apparent that I have too much male hormone, it’s mild but really affecting the quality of the eggs. I’ve done a lot of research and started eating specific foods and exercising to help balance out my hormones. I don’t know if it’ll help but it’s worth a shot and healthy to boot. But this crazy journey has made me a stronger person and I am so ready to be pregnant! And I am very happy to have strong and courageous women to share our experiences and ultimately our BFPs!

Laura, I’m really happy to here that you getting excited about the DE and enjoying the summer. I think it’s great that you’re fixing up a nursery. I’m trying to do things as if I am already pregnant too; it helps me stay optimistic. I decided not to tell family or friends I am using DE but I haven’t really given much thought about telling the children. I will wait for the kids to come and then figure it out. I wish I had better advice. Did either of you tell anyone you were using DE? Laura, I also belonged to an online support group and all the women got pregnant and had babies. I was truly happy for them but I also felt like life was passing me by too. I am glad we are here for each other. Thank you for your prayers. You and Cathy are in my prayer as well.

Cathy, I’ve been getting acupuncture for a few years now and I think it’s helpful. Have you tried it? You’re clinic sounds like they are being very thorough with the mock cycle; that’s great. I agree that it’s important to do things that make you feel good about yourself, especially the glass of wine ;) The heat has been unbearable here in NY too. Thank you for your kind words.

Have a good night. Peace and Joy, BMM

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Hi girls!

Laura - I've only read a fraction of that book because it is so scientific and a bit hard to read. But it does cover immune suppression and various other treatments. I don't think it covers anything about DE though but I haven't looked thru it in a while. I'm actually reading [b]Having Your Baby Through Egg Donation by Ellen Sarasohn Glazer, Evelina Weidman Sterling, and Evelina Weidman Sterling[/b] and even though it covers the entire process from beginning to end, I find the book very good and helpful. There doesn't seem to be many books out there that cover DE. I know what you mean by throwing out all your books in a fit of rage! I've felt that way many many times before, all my books are mainly about TTC naturally. >:( Grrrrrr.....

[quote]I feel I am just getting to the point where I am really excited about it. I feel like I am almost there![/quote]
That's great!! And I'm really glad to hear that!! In due time, right? I am already very excited about mine, I just can't wait to be pg already!!

We haven't done anything to the nursery. I think we are too afraid. After having so many losses, we are waiting atleast until the 2nd Trimester before doing anything like that or buying baby stuff. I avoid Babies R Us like the plague. I can't even look or drive by the store without feeling bad.

[quote]My concern is telling children about it later in life and having problems. Is it strange to worry about that?[/quote]
It seems to be a big deal to some as to whether or not to tell. Everything I've read and heard seems to lean towards telling the child. We are open minded but feel that we will make the right decision when the time comes. For now, we are leaning more towards, not telling, unless there is a medical situation.

[quote]I have been posting here for a few years now... seems that most of the women I used to post with have gone on and had babies! [/quote]
THAT'S EXACTLY HOW I FEEL!!! I've been posting on another website since July 06 and have been a part of many different threads and I feel like I'm left behind while they all move onto they're pregnancies and celebrating the birth of they're child!! :'( It makes me feel so sad inside even though I am happy for them, its just been so hard on us both. A girl even got pg the same cy/month I did in Jan 07 and our due dates were the same! (Oct 9, 07). So, in October I'll be thinking.....she's giving birth to her child and I'm still trying to get pregnant! I'm glad that we can all share this with each other, I think we can be a huge support system for one another.

bmm - The MTHFR is typically found when doing a blood clotting panel. I've never heard of it until the RE told me I had it.
That is wonderful that you have a family member as your egg donor!! She is an angel for sure!! Did your RE ever give you a reason why your fresh cycle didn't work?
Sometimes I wonder if we should have given ourselves more time to try naturally. DH didn't want to b/c he the chances of us suffering another loss would be too high. We are on a break and not trying, preventing actually. Too much emotions and money on the line right now. Wouldn't that be a miracle if you got pg on your own!! I'll be praying for you! Cuz you never know!! I've already heard of miracles happening, those are long stories that I can share with you all at another time. I've heard certain foods and diet can help with TTC and balancing out the hormones.

[quote]I am very happy to have strong and courageous women to share our experiences and ultimately our BFPs![/quote]
I ditto that!!

[quote]Did either of you tell anyone you were using DE? [/quote]
I've told a few friends that happen to be my co workers as well. I trust they wont tell anyone. I've also told my sister and she has advised me not to tell my parents, which I agree. They are old school and had a hard enough time understanding the regular IVF cycle. My future SIL knows but not my brother I don't think, and DH has told a few of his friends.

I love the acupuncture!! I only just started though and tonight is my 3rd appt. He wants me to go twice a week for the 1st month then once a week thereafter. Do you go that often? I didn't realize until now how expensive it is!! :o But I'll do anything to help my chances of success! I've told DH I will leave NO STONE UNTURNED!!

I've heard its been exceptionally hot in NY recently! I can't imagine what that's like. It's disgusting here. What part of NY are you in? I'm originally from Brooklyn! Moved to Fla in 1998. I really like it here just not fond of the summer heat.

Have a great day!! Keeping everyone in my prayers too!
Cathy

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Hi Ladies, I hope all is well.
Cathy – Thanks for the book recommendation. I’m going to look for it. The doctors never said why the fresh DE cycle didn’t work; the embryos looked good. After the DE FET, the doctor said maybe it was just a bad cycle but I don’t know. We have a few frozen embies and I am keeping positive. I know what you mean about not wanting to keep ttc naturally. It is heartbreaking. If you don’t try then you can’t be disappointed, right. But I can’t help it; I make sure dh and I have intercourse around ovulation; I just don’t put too much stock in it. And even so it is terribly disappointing to see my period. The time, emotions and money is a lot to deal with. It just all seems so unfair sometimes. A co-worker was just complaining about how much money his kids are costing him. It just drives me crazy because in one year, I spent more money ttc then he spent on vacations, gifts and activities for his 2 kids. I can’t stand that “when you have kids, you’ll see” attitude. They have no idea what we go through. Anyway I am eating super healthy and lost a few pounds. I used to be pretty fit and in the last 2 years, I put on 25lbs all in my midsection. I want to be pregnant but not look it when I am not. During the past year a few people had asked me if I was pregnant because of my stomach not because they knew I was trying; It felt like crap. But the weight is coming off and I am much happier and healthier. I go to acupuncture anywhere from 1-3 times a week and sometimes I’ll skip weeks. It’s great but it is pricey. I agree, Leave no stone unturned! I live in Manhattan. The weather has cooled. Did you grow up in Brooklyn? Thank you for your prayers. You and Laura are in my prayer also. Sorry for all the venting. It’s just one of those days I guess. I’m off to a much need yoga class. Have a great evening!
BMM

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Hi everyone!!

bmm - I am really surprised you didn't get any answers as to your last DE cycle and why it didn't work. ??? Are you using the same donor as the last? Did you do a 3 dt or a 5dt? Definitely stay +, we all have too thru this.

I didn't share what happened to me on Monday at my (#4) u/s appt. I was there to check to see if the lining was 7mm so I can begin my PIO shots (for my mock cycle). Well, oddly enough she saw something that either looked like a polyp :-\ or a gestational sac!! :o I know that would be highly unlikely. So she did a beta which came back -. Dr. said it was nothing to be concerned about but now I find myself searching the internet for some information as to what the heck she was looking at. I wouldn't say I'm worried but certainly a bit concerned that it may be a polyp even though dr. says not to worry. grrrr.

[quote]It just all seems so unfair sometimes. A co-worker was just complaining about how much money his kids are costing him. It just drives me crazy because in one year, I spent more money ttc then he spent on vacations, gifts and activities for his 2 kids. I can’t stand that “when you have kids, you’ll see” attitude. They have no idea what we go through.[/quote]
Tell me about it. I really can't stand that and really aggravates me when I hear someone complaining about stuff like that when they have no clue what someone like us goes thru. Pisses me off actually.

Jeeze. I know what you mean about gaining weight. DH and are eating healthy too and I've gained about 5-7 lbs myself which I'm not happy about. I'm pretty petite at 5', so even alittle bit is noticeable. I think right now the Delestrogen is making me puff-up and all bloated. The PIO won't be any better, but atleast I'll have a break before the real cycle and get my weight back on track too.

I love the acupuncture too but why does it have to be so darn expensive!! What's up with that???

That is so awesome that you live in the city!! I absolutely loved the city when I lived there!! Living in Bklyn was okay but really spent most of my adulthood in NY. Went to places like CBGBs, the Ritz, the CatClub...all those places are gone now. I also commuted for about 10-11 yrs working as a graphic designer. I miss the Village, St. Marks/8th St, Greenwich, SoHo, the great restaurants and fun atmosphere. Its really different here but I do feel like its home now. Where abouts in the city do you live if that's not too personal a question? downtown/midtown/uptown? Didn't spend much time uptown but I know its really nice there. Super glitzy stores and restaurants. I hope to visit sometime in the near future.

Let's stay in touch!! Hope you enjoyed your yoga class and evening!!
Have a great day!
Cathy

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Good Morning Ladies.
Laura - I hope all is well.
Cathy – I’ve been to 3 clinics and all the doctors thought I’d be pregnant in no time. So whatever my issue/s, including the hormone issue, they are subtle but stubborn. I used the same donor (1 cycle) for both the fresh and frozen cycles and I still have a few left. It was (perfect quality) 3dt but proven donor. I am keeping my fingers crossed for the next FET. Thank you for the words of encouragement.
How are you doing? I’m sure if the doctor thought it was a polyp, she/he would follow up. I hope you’re feeling better about it. I know it must be torture. I analyze every little thing my doctors says. You are in my thoughts. Are you taking the PIO shots now? Do you give them to yourself? When is the mock transfer?
The meds and the emotions sure don’t help staying in shape. Do you do any type of exercise? I just started yoga but I want to do something more, like jog. But I really don’t have the motivation right now.
I live uptown. I love it here. The village and downtown are a lot of fun but I don’t get down there to often. I moved to NY when I married. It’s great living in the city, I love going to the park, but sometimes I think that I want to move to the suburbs - More space and a driveway! Are you still working as a graphic designer? Sounds like a great job. What pat of Florida do you live?
Hope you’re enjoying the weekend.
Take Care, Bmm

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Hi everyone!
Sorry I've been MIA, so much has happened since my last post....hope everyone is doing well and on track with they're upcoming cycles!! Those of you doing a Sept/Oct cycle, WE ARE ALMOST THERE!!!!!

bmm - hey girl!! Glad I checked in here b/c your last post reminded me that I may be doing a mock transfer tomorrow! DH and I go in to sign our IVF paperwork and RE may want to do that and I'll need a full bladder in the am! Then we meet w/our IVF team afterwards. A few weeks ago our coordinator gave us our timeline and our donor should be starting stims somewhere on btwn the 21st-24th. ER is scheduled for 10/4 and hopefully ET on 10/9!!

I finally finished the mock cycle and had the endo biopsy a couple of weeks ago and was glad to get that over with. Results will help the dr determine how much estrogen and PIO I will need b4 transfer.

Oh, I'm aweful about working out. I went thru some phases where I was on the treadmill a few nights a week but its hard to keep the motivation. That's really really cool that you live in uptown Mahn. I know I would have loved living there had I stayed in NY. I am in the west coast part of Florida, Tampa area. My job is great, I am lucky and love the people I work with as well. I get to be creative and sit at a computer all day long! How do you beat that!?? What do you do for a living?

Off topic, one of my dogs passed away on 7/28. He was the father of my youngest pup Snowy and husband to his wife Angel. He had been sick with diabetes and was on meds for his kidneys since Oct 06 and also went completely blind. He had his ups and downs but he was never really himself once he got sick and could tell he was not happy in the end. It was aweful and went thru a very difficult time but each day does seem to get alittle better. I know he is happy now and in a much better place where he doesn't needs meds anymore and we will be together again someday. Its so hard to lose a pet, as they are a part of the family too.

On another off topic subject - DH (well DF) and I have finally set a wedding date! February 23, 2008!! It's been really refreshing to finally have something other than TTC on my brain 24/7. Making arrangements has really been keeping me busy these days!!!

Hope everyone is doing well. KUP
Cathy

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Good Evening Ladies.
Hi Laura, hope you’re well.
Wow Cathy, you have a lot going on. I’m happy to hear your cycle is on track…I’m so excited for you. It’s coming up fast, right? It’s already September. So the mock cycle went smoothly? The full bladder is torture.
I’m so sorry to hear about your dog; that must have been difficult. I don’t have any pets but I agree that your pup is in a better place. I remember how sad I was when my childhood cat died; they really are a part of the family. On a happier note, Congratulations on the wedding date! Are you having a big wedding? Did you pick out dresses, cake, menu, etc..? I love wedding stuff.
I’m still working out; I about lost 10-15lbs and we are planning vacation so I have some motivation to keep going. Is Tampa near the beach? I’d love to live close to the shore. I really like it uptown but think about moving. I’m not sure if the city a good place to raise kids? That’s great you enjoy your job. I work in finance; I love it too.
Well, I got my period 11 days ago. We are doing a natural FET cycle w/ day 3 frozen embies. I’m going in for monitoring and once ovulation is determined, I will go in 3 days later for the transfer and then begin progesterone suppositories. I estimate ovulation will be this Tuesday or Wednesday and the transfer Friday or Saturday. I can’t believe it’sa week away :D. I’m trying not to obsess and just go with the flow; so far so good :)
Any plans for the holiday?
Hugs and babydust.
Namaste

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Hi everyone,
I hope all is well!
We are getting ready to start a DE cycle. i will keep you posted.
laura

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hi everyone! Sorry I've been MIA. Life and work has been so hectic for me lately.

Namaste - You've probably already had your transfer by now. Did it go well and according to plan? Will you be testing anytime soon? I'm hoping to hear back from you with GREAT news!!!!

Laura - Where are you exactly in your cycle? Is your donor starting Lupron or Stims yet?

Well, our donor has been doing very well so far, she's been stimming for 11 days now, her estrogen was up to 2700 yesterday and they said she had potentional for 21 follicles! Today we will find out if she is going to trigger tonight or tomorrow, for a Friday or Saturday retrieval. We are really excited and nervous at the same time. Praying everything continues to go smoothly and for a successful outcome for everyone!

Babydust
Cathy

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Hello Girls,
Sorry, I have been MIA for awhile too. I have been patiently waiting and waiting for the clinic to find a donor for me. We received the call on Wednesday! They emailed her profile over and we accepted it! For the first time since we decided to go the DE route I am so excited! I guess it's going to take a month or two to sync up cycles and then we will be good to go.

Wow.... it's been a long long road. We have been trying to have a baby for almost 5 years now. Many of my friends have had two or three kids in that time span and it's been an emotional 5 years to say the least.

Cathy, be sure to let us know what is going on with your cycle. I will be thinking and praying for you. 21 follicles! That's amazing!

Laura, I will be praying for you too! Be sure to keep us posted.

Bmm, I am hoping you had a positive on your cycle... it's been awhile and I wish nothing but the best for you. Let us know how you are doing.

Take care ladies,
Laura

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Laura - Congrats on the great news!! Do you know when you will be cycling? Maybe we can cycle together??

Unfortunately, we got just about the most devesatating news you could imagine last week at egg retrieval (10/5). To make a long story short, they didn't retrieve any eggs because we found out after retrieval that our donor took the HCG Trigger shot on the wrong nite!! We were completely and utterly devastated. I collapsed in tears hearing this news. We waited for this for so many months only for it to be taken away from us in a split-second. Our donor was crying hysterically when she realized the huge error that she had made, she was screaming that she didn't care about the money that she wanted another chance. I wasn't at the clinic when all this happened but my DH was and everyone was so very disappointed and heartbroken over this. It took me all weekend to recoup from the devastation and return to work the following Monday.

The good news is...(and there actually is some) is that my IVF clinic is going to RE-DO the entire cycle over again for us at no extra charge and our donor is wanting to do it over again to make it up to us, also at no additional fees or charges. Its unbelievable that we have to go thru this all over again from the beginning but finding a new donor will be too costly and will take too much time and we still really like her, so we are pressing forward and STILL looking forward to the future and our next cycle. Unfortunately, we have to wait until January 2008 to begin the new cycle again because of the close during the December holidays. So another dreaded wait......atleast this one should be as long.

Its quite mentally disturbing to have experienced everything we have gone thru.... 4 miscarriages, a failed IVF and now a Donor Cycle busted because of an error. When does the suffering end?

So, needless to say...I'm taking a huge break from the boards right now, atleast until the end of this year or early 08. Sending you lots of luck for your upcoming cycle and hope that everyone else has had some success here.

Prayers and babydust
Cathy

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Hi Ladies!
Cathy I feel your frustration, try top be positive!

Laura- were are you in your cycle? We have just finished our sycronization of cycles. I stop birth control pills on 10/18 and I started Lupron on 10/14. My donor is 27. The Center (Dr.Miller & Dr. Smith -new center for one last try) will garantee a certain amout of blasts to have for transfer. I have done this so many times now I am glad we are starting but causouly optimistic about actully getting to trasfer (Its been 4 years-4 IVF's-1DEF-1DEF- 3 chemical P) Baby dust Laura

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Hi Ladies –
Thank you for the well wishes but unfortunately the FET didn’t work. I was devastated as they were the last of the donor eggs. The docs don’t understand why the DEs didn’t work; they think that it was just a bad batch. I think there may be some other subtle fundamental reason so I made an appt with a new RE who focuses more on the underlying factors. After so many iui/ivf/de cycles and not even a chemical pregnancy, I don’t want to find another donor if I have an issue that’s hindering implantation; what’s the point. My appt is the end of Nov. Until then, I am doing herbs, exercise, healthy eating etc…

Cathy – I can’t believe that! I’m so sorry. I couldn’t imagine but I am glad to know it is going to work out. I wish you loads of babydust. The suffering makes us stronger and it will pass. I know I am not the same person I was before all of this ttc…for the better :) Take Care.

Laura (wantsbabytoo) – Congrats! I am so happy you’re excited about the DE process. I wish you the best too! Keep us posted.

Laura – Welcome. That’s great your clinic guarantees blast transfer. I wish you lots of babydust! Did your doctor offer any insight as to why your last DE cycle didn’t work?

I hope you have a good night.
Namaste -
BMM

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Hi,

I went through 2 IVFs with DE. Both times from the same donor (Day 3- five embies (all were 8 cells) resulted in BFN. I'm curious to know which Day 3 or 5 you used in your donor egg cycle.

Thanks
mrgn

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Hi Ladies,
My donor starts her stims on Tuesday! If all goes well, retreval will be around 11/18 or 19 and transfer will be 11/23 or 24. (Everything is subject to change with not much notice!). I will be receving immunoglobulins the day of transfer (I came back with some positives which could have led to my chemical pregnacies and or donor cycle failure). It is very refreshing to have them call me to check on me and answer my questions. I am very glad we have decided to try one last time and go to the best.
Laura

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Hi Girls!

Laura, Good luck to you. Maybe the new doc will bring success! The docs can't give you any info on why they think it didn't work for you?

My cycle is about a month past yours. If everything goes well, we are looking at a tentative transfer date of December 17.... IF everything goes according to calendar. Yikes.... I am so nervous. I am on the pill and I believe I start Lupron the 15th of this month. It seems a bit early, but I will just do what they tell me.

Cathy, I am so sorry about the error. What a bummer! Will you be trying again after the holidays?

Bmm, good luck with your doctor change as well. We all deserve a baby after what we have all went through!

Babydust to all of us!
Laura

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Hello everyone,
I'm currently doing a DE cycle and this world is all new to me! I'm disappointed to not use my own egg-- but everyone on the other side of this says it will not matter. What have you ladies heard? And how do you feel about all of this? Thanks.

I'm probably the most newbie-ish on this whole forum, as I haven't had the experiences that you all have had. But now that I've dipped my toe into the world of infertility, my heart goes out to each of you-- I simply had no idea what people go through!

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Welcome goodapples!

Yes, not using our own eggs is difficult... at least it was for me. It took me two years to get to this point, and now I am just excited. Now that 40 is right around the corner for me, it's all about just having a child.... no matter how it comes to me.

I used to think there was something really wrong with me that I couldn't just jump right into the donor egg thing after I was told my own eggs were not good. I was 37 yrs. old.... I thought I still had time! I spent a whole year being angry and crying everyday. I had a REALLY difficult time accepting that a child would never have my genetics. Maybe this is normal, maybe it's not. This is just how I felt for a long time. I guess we all grieve in our own way.

So what is your timeline for DE? Have you or your donor started any of your meds yet? Keep us posted! Glad you are joining us here on this forum.

Laura

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I'm in mid-cycle. I try not to think about it but the retrieval is next week sometime. I have a child and have always been fertile-- got pregnant at 43 and 45 for example! (but miscarried at 45). Now at 46 the doctors say I need a donor egg. So, I was kinda thrust into this brave new frontier with no time to get my head around using a donor egg. I had never even heard of it before, just went straight ahead due to my dinosauric age. My dr's say that no one ever regrets using a DE. I just hope to love the baby as much as I love my biological son. Thanks for responding, I feel very alone but know there must be lots of people like me out there -- just not talking about it.

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Hi Ladies,
We are getting close know! Retrieval is 11/16 with transfer on11/23. A blast transfer! I am starting to get hopfull!
mrgm-my first donor, they transfered 3 day 3 embrios. Then I did a FET than was 3 blasts. All were BFN. I beileve day 5 is much better but my old clinic did not have the lab for it.
goodapples- How did your retreval and transfer go? How many embreos and at what stage were they at transfer? I hope all went well! I never thought I would do a donor but if you start thinking about adopting a child, this is so much better!
I will keep you posted!
baby dust to all!!
Laura

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Hi Everyone,

Your stories is inspriational! And thanks for sharing. Unfortunately the pain of the BFN is still so fresh (less than a month).

I am looking into acupuncture and I have heard of an herbal chinese guy who has some great success in NYC getting women pg naturally with teas and herbs. It is an inexpencive process so I figured to give it a try until we decided what we are going to do and possibably pick a new donor. It cant hurt.

I am adopted myself so I am not opposed to the idea - but I would love to be pg myself if possible. It is just the cost of another donor cycle on top the the loan I already took and the $$$ needed for adoption is weighing heavly on my mind. Am I going to have any money left if and when I do have a baby??

I also have another obsticle - my DH is 6 years older than me and adoption agencies do not like to give babys to people 45 and over. So time is of the essence.

This really help to discuss this with someone who understands. My friends and family try to help but they do not know the pain that we are going through.

Good Luck to you all! Meg

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Hi all, I am also very new to this and not familiar with all the abbreviations.... I had a donor transfer on Wed 11/22, two day 3 embryos.. I'm in the 2ww, any advice on how to get through??

Teresa

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Hi Teresa -

Welcome, these message boards will help alot! YOu just need to take it easy and try not to think about it. I know it is hard but keep yourself occupied but nothing too strenuous. You might want to check out the support group for 2WW also. Then you can chat with women who are going though the same exact thing as you.

Good luck and keep me updated! Meg

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