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SMS1129
 November 12th, 2005 10:51 AMReport

Well, dh and I had our u/s and consultation in NY on Thursday and it didn't go so well. They confirmed everything our OB said and more. The baby not only has downs or turner syndrome, but cystic hygroma and 80% chance of heart and/or neurological defects. The neck mass is getting even larger.

The doctors told us that we are increasing our risk of losing the entire pg and/or preterm birth by 25% by continuing to carry this child. It may abort itself, but there is no certainty of that. It is heartbreaking, but we have made the choice for the benefit of the other two seemingly healthy babies to do selective reduction of the unhealthy one. I know this is not easy to discuss after what we all go through, but I wanted to let everyone know where we are at. We are going back to NY on Monday for the procedure.

Thanks for your support.

Sue

justme
 November 12th, 2005 1:36 PMReport

Sue,


justme
 November 12th, 2005 1:38 PMReport

Sorry, it posted on it's own.

Sue,
I am so sorry that you are being put in this position. That has to be the hardest decision to make. I will say some prayers for you as you go through this for strength and the health of the other two babies. I can not imagine how stressful this has probably been for you and DH.

I hope everything goes well on Monday. Please keep us posted.

Justme

Meg
 November 12th, 2005 10:41 PMReport

Sue,

I am so very sorry for your news. I will keep you and your husband in my thoughts and prayers this weekend that everything goes smoothly on Monday and that the health of the other two babies remains well. The IF road continues to be difficult... Please take care and know that we are all here to support you.

Sending you Hugs and Prayers,

Meg

baby4us
 November 14th, 2005 9:05 AMReport

Sue... today is Monday... so I hope you are are doing well... You have made the rigth decision.. never an easy one.. but to ensure 2 healthy babies... but I am so sorry to hear about the loss... please let us know how today went.. and I hope you are felling better soon...



cassandra
 November 14th, 2005 9:54 AMReport

Sue, I'm so sorry you have to go through this.I hope everything goes ok on Mon. i'll be thinking of you. My sincere condolences on your loss. Take care...cassandra

tinkerbell
 November 14th, 2005 10:05 AMReport

oh Sue, I haven't read postings here in a while and I was heartbroken to have read your news. That is not an easy decision to make, but I guess it is for the best. I am praying for you and the babies. Be strong...

SMS1129
 November 15th, 2005 4:29 PMReport

Well, I had the procedure done yesterday. It was the hardest thing I have ever had to go through, emotionally and physically.
It took quite a bit of time to ensure the safety of the other two, but we had an u/s 1 hour afterwards and they both looked good. I will have another u/s in 1 week and then every week from week 18 until week 24.

DH and I are putting it behind us and praying for healthy twins. I don't wish any of this on anyone, but in the end, if we end up with 2 healthy babies, it will all be worth it.

Thanks again for everyone's support.

Sue


baby4us
 November 16th, 2005 8:27 AMReport

Sue I am happy to hear all went as well as it could on Monday and that the 2 babies are doing well.

Sorry that you had to go through this...


Karen123
 November 16th, 2005 8:52 AMReport

Sue, It really sounds like you and DH made it through a very difficult time with strength and courage. A mother always has to make tough choices to benefit her children and you've just made probably the toughest choice ever. I am SO glad to hear that your twins are doing well. I wish you only the best. You certainly deserve it. And I am truly sorry for your loss. Karen