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I had just responded on this in a different post. I think you worries are warranted and we all feel that way. I have not had twins, but with my first I was induced at 41 weeks. I was in labor 9 hours. My original plan was no pain meds which changed! I do have a high pain tolerance and was saying no to the meds, but when the first tear came down my face during a contraction, my husband talked me into Stadol. It is like a twilight drug. Makes you not care so much and sleep in between contractions. Then later I got the epidural and didn't care about that either! I liked the Stadol a lot! lol

With the pain meds, vaginal delivery was easy for me. I pushed for 15 minutes and had a beautiful little girl. She even came out face up.

With all that said, I am anxious yet again about birth. People say that every birth is different, so I of course and nervous about what to expect this time. Will it be faster? Will I go into labor on my own? Will I recognize labor of I go into it on my own, since I don't have that previos experience?

I agree that it seems silly that we have gone through sooooooo much to get here and now we are saying "Uh OH!!!!".

The babies will come out one way or another, and we will inevitably forget about the pain and relish in our new bundles of joy!

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I have had four daughters naturally with no pain medication whatsoever(b/c my labors were too quick) and I am now carrying twins. I have the same concerns. You are not alone. I have a book called everything twins, triplets and more it goes into to detail about when they decide to c-sections with twins and the reasons why and the length of time between twin deliveries. That might help answer some questions. When you deliver keep me posted on how things go for you.

Take care,
Sylvia

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I think it is perfectly natural to have these worries.. as I have them BIG time. I too am having my first child.. so have NO idea what to expect! Which scares the heck out of me!!! HELP!

As the time draws near.. I am wonderign whether I should just schedule a c-section!! Am I too posh to push?Anyway.. I doubt that will happen.. unless there is a medical reason to.. I will deliver vaginally.. but will opt for drugs.. I do have a high pain tolerance.. but I am no hero!!!

I can't even imagine what i'd be thinking if I were to be delivering twins... so I can try to imagine your concerns.. other than you are being monitored by your doc.. and everything will be fine. My grandmother had twins.. and she was a teeny-tiny lady.. I still don't know how she did it "back then".. when birthing was a bit more primitive in the hospital.. so I can say.. if she did it... then you will be fine too!!

I also have to keep reminding myself.. last year during the horrible earthquake/landslide that happend in Pakistan... there was a woman who gave birth in a tree.. so I keep telling myself..if she could do that under such stress and a natural disaster.. then I should be fine in a cushy hospital bed with drugs and my DH and mother at my side!!! (At least that is what I keep telling myself).. and I still have 10 more weeks to go!! YIKES!!!!!

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Baby4us,
I had no intention of being a hero when I delivered all of my daughters naturally. My FIRST labor which is supposed to be the longest was 2 hours from the first pain to delivery and my last daughter was born 5 minutes after I got to the hospital on an exam table. I only lived 10 mintues away from the hospital. They say the 1st delivery is the longest, all but my 4th were about the same. All I am saying is sometimes(although rare) they cannot give you drugs b/c the labor is progressing too quickly. I had no choice, I am hoping I will this time.
Although I felt every pain and had no drugs it was obviously something that was not so bad I wouldn't do it again. However the labor experience happens it will be special and worth it when we all hold our beautiful babies.
To be honest the thought of a c-section scares me to death, it is harder to recover from and I just don't like the idea of anyone cutting open my stomach.
Well, take care all....MUST get sleep!!!!!

Sylvia

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As of my Doc appointment yesterday, one baby is breech and one is head down. I told the Doc that I do NOT want to deliver both vaginally and by c-section. One way or the other please.

It seems as if you have a real strong desire to go naturally, and the first baby is head down, they will let you try, but if the 2nd one does not turn upon the delivery of the 1st, it's c-section time! They told me that sometimes the other baby turns and sometimes it just turns sideways (enjoying all of the extra space all of a sudden) - which is then impossible for delivery. I just figure, although I too do not really look forward to having my stomach cut open, if it has to happen, spare me all the other stuff that goes with vaginal and take them both.

Well, only time will tell.

Yesterday's u/s you could see the babies ribs going up and down. The Doc said they are practicing their breathing! They seem all ready to go - I sure am :)

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Hey Sylvia... sorry I didn't mean to imply that you were being ahero.. I was just saying.. I know that I can be a wimp!!!! BIG TIME!!! so I am trying to prepare myself.. anyway...I can imagine a c-section is a scary prospect.. which is great to hear because so many women opt for them now because I guess they are "easier" (as youcan schedule when, etc).. but somehow seems wrong unless you need one for medical reasons (twins, breech, etc)

Susie.. that would be a tough decision.. not sure if I'd want to do natural AND c-section..

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Baby4 us,
I was not offended in the least...just reminding you of that old saying "The best laid plans of mice and men" LOL Trust me I was shocked when I ask for meds and they told me no b/c I was too far along. I guess my girls were anxious to get into the world.
Sussie, How far along are you now? Does the other baby have time to turn before delivery or is there just not enough room at this point? I talked to me Dr. yesterday at my ob appointment about all of this, he said about 60% of twin pregnancies are delivered c-section. Does your doc do a sonogram everytime you go in too? I am only 3 months and have had 3 sonograms so far. With my singletons I was lucky to get 2 the entire pregnancy.
Well, must get my day going as much as I don't want to, I guess you cannot delay the inevitable

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I am 34 weeks along with the boys. I can't imagine that they have all that much room to continue to turn around. I get a u/s everytime I go to OB (now weekly) and a level II u/s once time per month. During the level II, they measure the babies and tell me exactly how big they are. 3 weeks ago, they were both over 4 pounds!!!

I figure, chances are I will need a section. Trying not to worry too much!

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It is funny , we go through all of this and one of the first thoughts I had when we found out we were pregnant was they have to come out! With my first one I was induced, my water broke and no contractions started. It was hard because the pitocin does not let up and you have the same contraction pain each one, where with no induction some can be ok and others can be horrid! I know this doesn't help but when the time comes you just .....I hate to say it......you just do it. It just happens and I know with me, I went into "the zone" and even though you are in alot of pain you just end up rolling with it. Each person is different but in the end when you are holding your child it will all be worth it.

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